October 27, 2008
Are There Gay Ghosts?
Scott Stiffler READ TIME: 8 MIN.
The next time you feel a strange presence lurking behind you at the local gay bar, don't be so sure it's just that creep who's been hitting on you for the better part of Happy Hour. It could be a Friend of Dorothy who's passed on but decided to stay around for awhile and cop the occasional feel. It could be. . .a gay ghost. No such thing, you say? Well, think again. Edge did some homocentric paranormal sleuthing and came up with a whole new color in the flag of our proud rainbow tribe.
With LGBTs accounting for one in ten of us (and an even smaller percentage of us ending up as earthbound spirits), your chances of sighting a gay ghost are as rare as encountering a perpetually thin and sober Liza. But just because gay ghosts are rare doesn't mean they're not real. And why not? Once you wrap your head around the concept of life after death, it's no great leap to conclude that some of the spirits dwelling between this realm and the next are of the lavender persuasion.
Gay Ghosts? Hell, Yes!
Gay Ghost Shame?
Do you believe these accounts of LGBT hauntings? Either way, the preponderance of documented occurrences on Summers' site makes a good case that there's something just not normal about certain paranormal events. So why haven't we heard about these sort of cases in the flood of supernatural cable reality shows and documentaries? Summers believes that the LGBT nature of these cases is "something that the paranormal community at large doesn't want to deal with." He says that over the thirteen years during which he's been investigating, he's repeatedly encountered "an underlying homophobia in the paranormal community. I've heard a lot of negative gay comments made by paranormal investigators." That those willing to believe in ghosts can't make the leap to accept gay people is ironic - especially given the fact that, according to Summers, "A good percentage of psychics or mediums are LGBT."
The Haunted Gay-Owned B&B
If you and your same sex partner want a cozy B&B experience with a dash of the paranormal thrown in, you'd do well to book a room at the gay-owned 1889 WhiteGate Inn & Cottage (in Asheville, North Carolina; The Inn is currently home to two ghosts, with one having been excised by a medium. Salvo: "He was a very angry ghost who hung himself in a room in the 1930s when this was a convalescent home for TB patients. He was not a mean ghost and never hurt anyone or was very disruptive, but it was a presence that was so strong and sad that I couldn" t="" even="" go="" down="" into="" the="" lower="" level,="" a="" basement="" storage="" room="" which="" is="" now="" a="" suite."=""
The Cherokee Indian trained shaman/medium that convinced that ghost to move on "did smudging to clear him and also said the Inn had a lot of different entities, most of whom she sent on. She did keep two of them here. A benign character by the name of the Colonel hangs out at the house. The one we have more sightings of and activity is a woman by the name of Mariam Bridgett, a woman who bought this house in 1929 and ran it as a TB convalescent home and then as a boarding house. She still haunts the downstairs, is often seen in the gardens and the guest rooms on the second floor. In the early years, she used to walk up and down the staircase, open and close doors. She'll turn on and off lights."
When Mariam's activity began to resemble that of a noisy guest, Salvo "talked to her and asked her to tone it down a little, but I also told her I wanted her to stay here. She tends to follow me through the house; according to the medium, she's very attached to me."
So who reacts in terror the most when Mariam makes her presence known' target='_blank'> the gays, the lesbians or the straights? Ever the good host and sly diplomat, Salvo won't say (but judging from his reaction, it's a good bet we gays are the ones throwing the hissy fits when they spot her in the garden or wake up at night to see her sitting on the sofa). Salvo says that most guest, however, "feel a lot better when they know she adds a warm, welcoming loving feeling to the Inn."
Gay Ghosts: A Case History
Melissa Van Rossum is author of Their Way Home, My Adventures as a Ghost Guide?(
When the friend was visiting Van Rossum's home, the ghost couple came along. "They were a lovingly devoted gay couple who had faced a lot of judgment in life, and feared the same judgment in death. So they refused to cross over. They stood by each other, fiercely protecting one another. I thought it was a beautiful testament of true love."
After listening to their concerns, Van Rossum "explained that they had nothing to be afraid of. The judgment and the persecution was on this side of the veil, not the other way around. It took a lot of convincing, but I was able to show them the compassion they would find on the Other Side. Once they felt the love and acceptance that was waiting for them, they completely lost their fear of judgment and allowed me to start them off on their way home."
No Sex for Ghosts?
No responsible examination of gay ghosts would be complete without contemplating the question of sexuality in the afterlife. Just as so often happens in this life, gay ghosts are defined by their sexual orientation. It's what sets them apart from the vast majority of hetero phantoms; it's what gives them that extra element of fascinating appeal. But still, that's not a very good foundation for daydreaming about all the impending adventures you'll have living eternity as a fey, gay soul.
When asked about the sex life of gay ghosts, Van Rossum had some sobering news. The verdict? Get as much as you can now, future Casper, because ghosts don't have sex.
According to Van Rossum, in the afterlife, "There's no sexual activity because there's no body. But there is identity. If you have not crossed over, you continue to embrace the same habits and interests that you had in life." Once your cross over, however, she says "you begin to lose all of that" in favor of dwelling in a realm where there's "No money, no heterosexuality, no homosexuality." No thanks!
Pressed for details on this rather disturbing vision of an eternal life without the all-important benefits of getting it on (be it ghost-on-ghost or ghost/human action), Van Rossum offers a ray of hope' target='_blank'> "I don't' know everything. I don't want to say this is the final answer. Ghosts can touch you. We can feel a presence, a touch or a tapping. But as for something like having sex, I don't think so."
Scott Stiffler is a New York City based writer and comedian who has performed stand-up, improv, and sketch comedy. His show, "Sammy's at The Palace. . .at Don't Tell Mama"---a spoof of Liza Minnelli's 2008 NYC performance at The Palace Theatre, recently had a NYC run. He must eat twice his weight in fish every day, or he becomes radioactive.
