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2 Survivors of Christian ’Ex-Gay’ Therapy Tell Their Stories

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"It was all particularly self-destructive," he says. "It took me a very long time to rebuild my life." It was not until 2010 that Kendall’s life turned around when he served as a witness in the federal trial of Proposition 8, a bill that sought to eliminate legal same-sex marriage in California.

During his testimony, Kendall shared his experiences in reparative therapy. Kendall says it was a that lawsuit in a federal courtroom across the country that finally saved his life.

"To testify in such a landmark civil rights case, I pretty much owe my life to that experience." Kendall says. "It’s because of [Prop 8] that I found confidence in myself and got my life and happiness back." Kendall is currently a junior at Columbia University, where he is studying political science. After graduating, he hopes to go to law school.

Today, Taylor, now 31, identifies as a gay Christian, but says the church’s unwelcoming view of homosexuality sometimes makes it hard for him to attend church services. "I like to think I am a tough guy and that no one’s going to chase me away from Jesus," Taylor says. "But the reality is that the church does a good job of making sure gay people know they aren’t accepted."

Both men condemn reparative therapy as harmful and unscientific. Kendall points to the movement’s seeming retrenchment in the face of near-universal condemnations from their psychological peers.

"Now they don’t talk about making gay people straight," Kendall says. "They talk about suppressing sexual attraction, but it’s all the same shtick. Suppressing who you are because society doesn’t want you to be that person, it’s damaging. There is nothing wrong with people being who they are."


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  • Anonymous, 2012-06-11 08:58:54

    She wished she had an abortion...So fascinating that the right is so anti-abortion except when it comes to their own choices. Hopefully that kid will put his stupid parents behind him and have children of his own that can be raised with love.


  • Anonymous, 2012-06-11 09:53:31

    That’ll teach them that along with making that choice to be gay, they should’ve chosen patents that knew the definition of unconditional love.


  • Anonymous, 2012-06-11 11:59:03

    This mother needs to shoot herself in the face with a sawed off shot gun!


  • jose luis , 2012-06-11 15:11:23

    Its saddening to hear such things like this. But when families put their faith before their children simply due to them being gay just shows how religion is lost and a failure. To say such things to her son is just why religion should be put to an end for the bullshit it creates. As for the comment towards the mother using a shot gun to herself is plain stupid,seriously. She just needs to have her eyes pryed open which will happen when she sees her own son living a good and productive life. Acts of violence gets one nowhere. Even if said out of anger.


  • Anonymous, 2012-06-11 19:09:49

    You are rather niece aren’t you? That mother will never learn more than what the 4th grade and her pastor have managed to teach her. The shot gun comment is way out of line. She should be stoned to death the next time she is unclean.


  • Anonymous, 2012-06-12 16:29:08

    The Bible doesn’t condem being gay. Only through lazy translations and interpritations does religiosity condem us. The truth is readily available if you look for it.


  • Anonymous, 2012-06-12 22:46:23

    First of all, I urge LGBT Christians to do what I did - find a church that is at least open to discussing these issues, recognizing that misusing the Bible to continue the age-old condemnation of homosexuality just does not fit the real facts based on up-to-date science and psychology. Secondly, reparative therapy, under any name is a quack psychology and costs LGBT people dearly, even causing suicide. It is time to outlaw that practice.


  • Anonymous, 2012-06-18 19:39:21

    If you love Jesus and want. A church that will except you. Go to an episcapal church, my church has gay triangle on its door


  • Anonymous, 2012-06-20 21:35:33

    I have a suspicion that the most freakishly religious people are the ones who dove into "god" to distract and save them from their deep, secret, homosexual desires. That is way they have so much disdain, animosity and jealousy toward gay people. We are living the lives they could’ve had, but didn’t have the guts to pursue. It’s a big, heaping, helping of covet in my opinion. And that is the gospel according to Anonymous Ed.


  • Anonymous, 2012-06-25 22:08:36

    I my self am a gay christain and feel for this kid it is not easy when you are entangled in the web of lies people create about religion


  • Anonymous, 2012-07-08 04:02:21

    it isn’t just kids like "Kendell" that get taken advantage of by the church in this manner. I am Taylor for the article above. when my counselor heard about my epiphany he immediately started asking if i had touched anyone or slept with anyone. when I convinced him that I had not he breathed a sigh or relief and made me feel as though I had dodged a bullet. with in a week I had lost my job and my home both on church property and then was forced into the program lest I loose the right to sing on worship team or even go to that church. you might say "well Good don’t go" but the reality was that these people actually loved me and wanted what they viewed as best for me. and stuck with a choice of go or be alone, I really had no choice. and yes the whole experience was terrible and it wrecked me hard. but I have grown a lot since those days, i am no longer afraid or ashamed of who i am. i no longer hold the church in contempt over past wrongs, instead i work tirelessly to make sure that church people do not by accident under the guise of Love damage more people by trying to fix what is in truth not broken.


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